How to Strengthen an Essential Leadership Skill About 20 years ago, I was engaged in a discussion about Organization Savvy with an AutoNation senior executive. At one point he said to me, proudly, “My father was a walking lie detector”. He went on to explain how his father leveraged that skill to build a veryContinue reading “Sharpening Your “BS” Detector”
Author Archives: Marty Seldman
Reading Tells
The Poker Skill that will Elevate Your Social IQ and Your Value to an Organization “Show me your eyes and you may as well show me your cards” – Doyle “Dolly” Brunson, Two Time World Poker Champ “People will TELL you how to Sell Them” – Tom Hopkins, Elite Sales Trainer The Golden Rule, “TreatContinue reading “Reading Tells”
Fully Identify Your Strengths and Potential:
The key to being confident, bold and finding your “sweet spot” in life (This article is dedicated to Herbert A. Otto, Ph.D., founder of the National Center for the Exploration of Human Potential) What percentage of the population has an accurate picture of their strengths? My estimate, after 50 plus years of focusing on thisContinue reading “Fully Identify Your Strengths and Potential:”
The Need for Approval
Finding the Right Balance in How Much You care About Other People’s Approval How concerned are you about other people’s judgements regarding your decisions, performance, or values? Their disapproval may matter to you more than you realize. Neuroscientists have pointed out that our brains are often “velco” for negatives and “teflon” for positives. For mostContinue reading “The Need for Approval”
The Halo Effect: Shining Light on the Impact of “Unconscious Favoritism”
The Halo Effect is a term that sounds good but when it is present on a team or in a family, there is widespread damage. Definition: A beneficiary of the Halo Effect receives UNDESERVED (not earned) recognition, attention or rewards and may avoid consequences for not following policies, breaking rules, or achieving poor results. HowContinue reading “The Halo Effect: Shining Light on the Impact of “Unconscious Favoritism””
Robust Self-Care: How to Prevent Burnout, Perform at Your Best, Accelerate Your Career and SAVE TIME
For me, protecting time for self-care has been one of the most challenging responsibilities to manage in my leadership journey. I define it as a responsibility because as leaders we are called to serve and through discipline in self-care, I have found myself being more creative, effective, engaged and empathetic, as well as more committedContinue reading “Robust Self-Care: How to Prevent Burnout, Perform at Your Best, Accelerate Your Career and SAVE TIME”
Calm Self-Critique: The Skill Set that Creates Peak Happiness AND Peak Performance
During the past 15 years, advances in neuroscience have allowed researchers to detail the impact that a range of behaviors has on our brain and nervous system. In particular scientists who focus on happiness and longevity (including Dr. Mark Hyman, “Young Forever”, Dr. Rick Hanson, “Hardwiring Happiness”) identify many simple activities that reduce our stress,Continue reading “Calm Self-Critique: The Skill Set that Creates Peak Happiness AND Peak Performance”
Clearing a Path to Health & Happiness 2.0: Nurturing vs Toxic to Yourself
In the previous article the focus was on how other people treat us. We saw that while we can’t control, we can influence their behavior towards us. In addition, if we leverage our abilities to choose our focus and self-talk, we can minimize the undesirable impact of toxic people. Now we are going to revisitContinue reading “Clearing a Path to Health & Happiness 2.0: Nurturing vs Toxic to Yourself”
Clearing a Path Towards Health and Happiness: Nurturing vs Toxic People
“You have already ‘paid’ for the lesson, you might as well take the learnings”– Tom Hopkins Ten years ago when I was in my late 60’s, I suffered way too long in a personal/professional relationship. Not only did I miss glaring signals, I ignored actual warnings. I expected too little and I tolerated too much.Continue reading “Clearing a Path Towards Health and Happiness: Nurturing vs Toxic People”
The Power of Self-Interest
This article may be useful to a wider audience but it is mainly intended for those of you who are idealistic, generous, and trusting. You can already guess, based on the title and first sentence, that my main focus here will be on the more cynical/realistic aspects of human nature. Before we go there IContinue reading “The Power of Self-Interest”
Marty Seldman 